The measurement of Christianity for most is love; God is love so that is the standard. The reality however is the Gospel is the true standard. It is the measurement of love which shows that love serves is not self-serving and in fact sacrificed self for others. That's a far cry from the emotional guilt manipulation foisted by the immature who are themselves emotional slaves. The correct motivation for decisions and life is truth, Christ is the truth! God calls us to reason together. Use your mind and consider the Gospel implications, Christ wears a crown. To deny that is to deny Him and His sacrifices. Would you look into the eyes of this king saying I'm not moved or motivated by you? This is why he will return with a sword and he will not ask how you feel.