In many ways our culture is at war. One of the most pressing
is in the area of motherhood and femininity. It is just about a crime in pop
culture to be a young pure woman who delights in it and the idea of raising a
family. Even in Christian circles we get waylaid by folks who think it is
paramount for a young lady to put personal goals, degrees, ministry and money
before marriage and children; the big fear is that she will not be fulfilled
and or happy. I just can’t help but say so what, and you may be offended but
let’s take a closer look at the terms that define our existence and that
precious Savior and redeemer of our souls. If we look at life without drinking
deep from the fountains of truth we will stand as poisoned servants of
ignorance unable to defend virtue!
1. God
created man (male and female)
a. The fall
(the lust of the eyes ,the lust of the flesh and the pride of life)
i. The
curse on the flesh Roman 6 “slave to sin”
1.The Flesh
i.Immaturity
/ living a self-absorbed life.
ii.A
narcissistic culture – everything is about me
1.What I
like –eyes
2.What I
want-flesh
3. How I
feel-pride of life
iii.Leads
to injustice, hate , shedding of innocent blood, evil tongue
b. Child
centeredness
i. Child
is the center of attention for good or bad
1.Should be
Christ alone
2.It’s
really a form of Idolatry
2. Feminism
–asks the wrong questions – unsatisfied
- wrong conclusion
i. Because
our roles are not the same then the women’s is of lesser value.
ii. The
focus is on how I feel and what I want; not what has God said.
iii. Thinking
I don’t need men when they mean; I don’t need God
a. Primary
motives- self
i.Me
myself and I
ii.Leeds
to abortion
“No woman can call herself free who does not control her
own body.”― Margaret Sanger
1.Heart of
irresponsible selfish immaturity
2.Shedding
of innocent blood
a. God
destroys nations for 3 thing
i. Sexual
decadence -Sodom and Gomorrah
ii. Witchcraft
iii Shedding
of innocent blood
3. America
has killed so many babies that it becomes hypocritical to celebrate any day that exalts parenting.
a.You think
its ok to control your reproductive body- that is the same logic the
abortionists use.
b.Effects
on men – as a culture becomes more feminist it relies more on Emotion to the
neglect of truth
i.Effeminacy-men
being led or controlled by emotion
1.Isaiah
3:12 My people—infants are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my
people, your guides mislead you and they have swallowed up the course of your
paths.
ii.Tends
to paralyze
1. Seen as a
bully/monster
a.Should
protect ladies not fight them, were
fighting ideas not people
2. Seen as
selfishly protecting our authority
a.Not ours,
Gods. Obeying his positional assignment
b.Men can
be painted into an emotional corner
3.How we
stumble in the church
a. Pietism-a
cultural fenomenum wherein we as the church focus on self with a gnostic
emphasis so that the culture at large is unaffected and unaware of us as the
people of God.
b. Emotionalism-With
language like having peace and following the spirit. Being led by emotion more
than Gods clear word.
c.The
heart and the tongue- We are born and come at life with a specifically selfish
/narcissistic motivational attitude. We are on the throne of our heart and
everything must serve that.
Matthew 15:11 it is not what goes into the mouth that
defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person
Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the
tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits
James 3:6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of
unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body,
setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell.
i.What is
your primary operating principle when dealing with conflict? Parenting is
conflict resolution.
1. Is it to
win the argument
2. Is it to
be right
3. Is it to
get your point across
4. To speak
your mind
5. To set
them straight
6. To
convict them of sin
It should be to love them in such a selfless way that they
would see the love of Christ. After all if you have people; you have problems.
ii. A prostitute is known by her lack of shame,
1. Jeremiah
3:3b yet you have the forehead of a whore; you refuse to be ashamed.
2. Proverbs
30:20 this is the way of an adulteress: she eats and wipes her mouth and says,
“I have done no wrong.”
3. Proverbs
14:1 Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her
hands- she is not ashamed and believes she has done no wrong.
a.The
raging fires of emotion can cause you to be Clawing and tearing the flesh from
the bones of your family with bitterness, a critical spirit and a Sharpe
tongue.
iii. An
unbridled tongue is like the nation destroying sin of shedding innocent blood
within the walls of our homes, motivated by self and inflamed by emotions.
Repent and be clean, confess and be restored. Do not continue in your idolatry
it brings God’s fierce jealousy, you are not your own has he not purchased you
with his BLOOD! Jesus Christ alone is
your righteousness!!
-->Oh Lord have I not home schooled and been a keeper of home,
have I not submitted to my husband and my God, served with my chase dress
makeup and children. Thank you for making me righteous in this land and not
like those foolish and adulteress women of this world.
Your righteous acts are as filthy rags! Christ and his imputed righteousness is all
you have and all there is. There is no other hope for you!
1Corinithians
1:30 He is the source of your life in Christ Jesus whom God made our wisdom and
our righteousness and sanctification and redemption.
Ecclesiastes
5:7 For when dreams increase and words grow many, there is vanity; but God is
the one you must fear.
The fear
of God is not just shuttering and being
scared. It is a reference point for real and persistent action. Living in close
relationship, always referring to Him.
Its about
fear, it harkens back to the curse. “her desire will be for her husband” why?
She focuses on him and others for fulfillment; this is a long slide downward,
failure after failure of others to meet our needs and desires. Finally turning
to this religious self-righteous piety that our culture accepts, all the while
serving our emotional idols in fear. Fear of what? a lack of fulfillment, fear
of loss, fear of unmet expectations’
> Idolatry
– Living in fear or desire of an object of reference.
> The best
kinds of slaves believe they are free. The best free people know they are prone
to slavery.
i. Prone
to wander, Lord, I feel it, Prone to leave the God I love;
What is
critical to get is -->
That if
we live a polished on the outside Christian life it is not living and gives no
life to others. We romanticize everything to emotional perfection. Happily ever
after is not what you think; it is being broken over your sin; sometimes it is
repenting for your anger even to your children. It’s letting in the reality of
your life that needs to be washed and forgiven. We demand a constant line of
confession and repentance from our kids; I hope we model it without pretense.
If we do that; we will give them a living faith in God.
4.Substitutionary
atonement (new relationship to God and man)
Who remembers the harlot caught in the very act- betrayed
and entrapped alone and condemned? The Creator and sustainer looks on with
tenderness and says “where are your accusers? Go and sin no more”.
That’s
us – satan drags us in as the accused and we are done for – Propitiatory
substitutionary atonement- and if that’s
not enough he adds imputation.
i. New
life in the Spirit
1 peter 3:6 1Likewise, wives, be subject to your own
husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a
word by the conduct of their wives, 2when they see your respectful and pure
conduct. 3Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the
putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4but let your adorning be
the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and
quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5For this is how the holy
women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own
husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children,
if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
1. Behold
all things are become new
a. We are
one with Christ – wherever we go He is with us.
i. Romans
12:5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one
of another
ii.Romans
13:14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to
gratify its desires.
iii.Romans
5:5b God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has
been given to us.**
b. Maturity
i.Romans
15:1 We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the
weak, and not to please ourselves.
ii.Put
away self –self-denial, Put away the self-interest and petty selfishness
iii.Romans
14:20 Do not, for the sake of food, destroy the work of God. Everything is
indeed clean, but it is wrong for anyone to make another stumble by what he
eats.
2.Just as
Eve =”Chavvah” life – Mothers you are
life.
a. 1
Corinithians 13:13
i. Faith –
1. God is
sovereign
2. God is
Good- gives good gifts
a. Law- The
law of God is perfect converting the soul! Psalm 19:7
b. Protective
authorities – Ministers of God to you for good. Romans 13:4
c. Supplies
needs – I will supply all your need according to his riches in glory.
Philippians 4:19
ii. Hope=
speaking hope into someone gives life
1.Romans5:1-5
Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God
through our Lord Jesus Christ. 2Through him we have also obtained access by
faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoiced in hope of the glory
of God. 3More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering
produces endurance, 4and endurance produces character, and character produces
hope, 5and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured
into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
2.Seeing
evidence (seeds) and picturing the fruit
3.The
opposite of hope is a critical spirit- takes life away (discouragement)
a.Proverbs
10:28 The hope of the righteous brings joy, but the expectation of the wicked
will perish.
b.This is
an indicative so we know who the righteous are. If your tongue does not bring
hope then? What’s in your heart? Hope is a royal robe from your husband.
c.Hope is
relational
i. Builds-Faith
and trust
ii.Breathes
life into everyone
iii.Love-
Selfless service of others
1.This love
chapter is filled with indicatives. Indicating what is true of you as you walk
maturely in Christ.
2.Love is
patient love is kind it does not envy, does not boast. Love does not delight in
evil but rejoices in the truth
3.Walk in
Spirit
a.Fruit of
the spirit
i.Galatians
5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is
love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness,
self-control; against such things there is no law – indicatives here indicate a
relationship with Jesus.
b.Fountain
of living water
i.Song of
Solomon 4:15 garden fountain, a well of living water, and flowing streams from
Lebanon.
1.A
representation of God
Jeremiah 2:13
They have abandoned me--the fountain of living water
ii.James
3:11 Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water?
1.Be
consistent – even if it kills you
2.The
animals don’t drink at the fowl well
5.The
secret to the spirit filled life
i.Romans
8:5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of
the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the
things of the Spirit.
ii.John
6:54 Whosoever eats my flesh, and drinks my blood, has eternal life; and I will
raise him up at the last day – do you desire him
Your life is a ministry (specific service to almighty God)
Walk as children of the light Obey God Dominion mandate
Titus 2
So what’s the problem? The life of the flesh
Sin
entered the world through Adam
The
curse
So what’s the solution? The spirit filled life
1. You are
not your own
Christ
died that we might have life
Your
speech will be changed into - a well of life
All our
hope is in Jesus the Christ
Not in well-mannered children
Not in
vans or number of children
Not in
dresses or head coverings
Not in
churches or a stay at home attitude
Not in
home education or a rejection of dating
Not in
wisdom or piety
Not in
tithing, gift giving or hospitality
Enough with this Idolatry
Our hope
is a man the Lord Jesus Christ! And we are His bride.
There is no other
name written under heaven by which you must be saved. Acts 4:12
He is the way the truth and the life. John 14:6
“I am the Alpha and the Omega,” says the Lord God, “who is
and who was and who is to come, the Almighty.
Revelation1:8
Motherhood-Eternal Influence
You are life and breath to the home, the fountain of
healing, being clothed in humility you are most beautiful. Mother you are the
fragrance of spice and color that thrills the senses. From you springs the life
of future generations, your spiritual and emotional strength rewards everything
it touches with hope and rest. This is what God has done. B.A.Worel
Flesh=cutting tongue =innocent blood= death
Spirit=words of encouragement=instilling hope=life
Only a woman can carry in her body an eternal being which
bears the very image of God. Only she is the recipient of the miracle of life.
Only a woman can conceive and nurture this life using her own flesh and blood,
and then deliver a living soul into the world. God has bestowed upon her alone
a genuine miracle — the creation of life, and the fusing of an eternal soul
with mortal flesh. This fact alone establishes the glory of motherhood. Douglas Phillips
