You have become a priest of apathy and a prophet of preference. Consumed with meeting your own needs while being completely derelict in your duties as husband father and man.
AS Priest you should stand in the gap for your family. Pouring yourself out for their cares and needs. Instead we tend to seek God in a pitiful self absorbed stupor while standing in ignorant pride. Not knowing the real needs of the family and showing a general disinterest.
As Prophet you must lead them to God and guide them in righteousness. Mans natural tenancy is to look to his own preferences or feelings on a given situation making some dictate based on that. Lacking consistency he becomes a tyrant of the moment. His family becomes fearful, direction-less and unable to act aright. Or possibly passive not wanting the pressure or responsibility. Being to consumed with yourself, you can't be bothered.
As Protector we must defend our families. We as men fill ourselves with pride and think to ourselves in the recess of our mind"ya if a vile man comes to hurt my family I will surely take them out". While your sitting there in your easy-chair you have earned no real credibility. Self control being the lifeblood of Liberty has a great deal to reveal in this area of fatherhood. The point of interest is that the family needs protection primarily from you father and your sinful heart. The would be villain makes a rare appearance but you are there everyday. So in a real world practical sense we would say a "man must protect his family first from himself and then from the enemy without".
As a provider we should concern ourselves with all the needs of the family. We sing that song "We bring the sacrifice of praise" and in a sense its true. God says obedience is better than sacrifice , so before you go praising God check yourself!. Men are called to be the priest, prophet, protector and provider. Somehow we ignore most of them and claim to provide. So they beat their chest and demand honor. They work, they brought home the money and it is theirs. Some families go without as a result of this kind of tyranny. Instead of loving and blessing their family, pride and arrogance are closely related to the ignorance of themselves and their depravity. The hand is no better than the foot yet this pride drives the wives down, telling them that their worth is measured in dollars. This personal egocentric depravity kills families. All of their possessions should be possessions of service.
If you were publicly educated then your more than likely a brainwashed practical humanist and pseudo socialist. You are blind and dumb and then mute for ignorance sake. The church today has confronted this problem by creating counterfeits to prop up in your place. Instead of challenging and equipping you they ;lacking trust in Christ or you; seek to supplant you for fear of numbers and failure. Repent from these sins of idolatry and be healed. Seek God and cry out to Him for wisdom. Start small in the fear of the Lord and watch it grow. God is very big!. His mercies are new every morning. :-)
